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Worried? Feeling numb? Hiding who you are?

psychotherapy can help you live more authenitcally.

Ruben+Hopwood

I work with people to reduce their anxiety; to slow down, recognize their emotions, and communicate their needs to others. I help people who are afraid to be themselves come out and live authentically whether those fears are due to gender identity, sexuality, or spiritual and religious concerns. I help socially anxious people stop worrying so much and enjoy life more. I help men who are struggling with their sexual identity and feeling emotionally cut off to understand their feelings and build more satisfying relationships.

Ready to start feeling better? Call me for a free 15 minute phone consultation for therapy.

Want to know more what therapy may be like?

In therapy, I ask questions like…

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Do you have life goals that you want to reach, but you feel blocked from them? Are you being who you want to be in your life and what stops you from doing being fully yourself? Do you feel distant from everyone in your life or like you are numb? Do you have trouble identifying what you are feeling? Do you only seem to feel angry or sad? How well do you communicate with your partner and significant others? Would you like to communicate your needs to others more clearly? Are you ready to explore your beliefs, your behaviors, your patterns and frustrations with relationships and your own life and make serious changes?

In counseling I help people explore and talk about things like…

What gets in the way of your goals? When have you faced similar struggles in the past? What do you do to get through difficult experiences or emotions? What are you most afraid will happen if you live your life as fully as you want to? Where do you get the most support from? Where do you feel you want to change the most? What do you want your life to look like? What do you really like about your current life?

I use a person’s past experiences, their values, and current behaviors to help them discover new perspectives and create new pathways to reach the goals they have for themselves. People report they feel better, feel less anxious, and have more satisfying lives and relationships when they work with me.

Would you like to understand what is holding you back from creating the life you love? Contact me and we can talk about how I can help you through therapy to reach a better quality of life.

Treatment approaches

Existential Therapy (learn more)
Humanistic Therapy (learn more)
Interpersonal Therapy (IPT) (learn more)
Mindfulness Practices (learn more)
Psychodynamic Therapy (learn more)
Supportive Therapy (learn more)

Specialties

Gender identity & transgender health – Exploring gender identity, including trans, non-binary, and gender diverse identities; support throughout the process of transition/gender affirmation
Spirituality & religion – Exploring beliefs and practices related to meaning, purpose, existence, and spiritual health and healing; enjoying a deeper felt connection with the spiritual dimension of one's life; spiritually integrative psychotherapy
Issues of masculinity – Including grappling with the impact of cultural norms of masculinity, what it means to be a man or to act like a man, overall impact on psychological health of cultural masculinity on all genders
Gender affirming – Positive support of others that acknowledges and reflects the inherent worth and value of the wide diversity of ways that people experience and express gender
Gender affirmation/Transition – The process by which a person may change their expression of gender socially, legally, and/or medically to more closely align with their gender identity and reduce feelings of incongruence; assessments and referrals for medical/surgical treatment
Mindfulness – Practices to encourage a state of active, open, non-judgemental attention on the present

General expertise

Anxiety – Coping with excessive worry, nervousness, or stress; intense discomfort in social settings (social anxiety); sudden and intense feelings of panic (panic disorder)
Depression – Providing support and promoting healing of hopelessness, low motivation and energy, sadness, irritability, sleep disturbance, and loss of interest and pleasure in life
Existential crisis – Supportive exploration of meaning and purpose in one’s life; finding one’s path in the face of existential anxiety, dread, and feelings of meaninglessness
Life transitions – Coping with difficult or impactful life changes, such as moving to a new area, relationship transitions, child rearing, or career changes; learning self-care to better manage resulting stress

additional specialties available

Sexuality & Sexual Orientation — Exploring romantic and erotic attraction, practices, and any challenges; support with “coming out” process and with integrating sexuality into one’s life

HIV/AIDS, Safer Sex, Peer Leadership & Advocacy — Support around concerns and considerations for living a full life while having HIV; maintaining health and wellness; coping with a diagnosis of AIDS; healthy romantic relationships as a person with HIV; self-advocacy and support of community

Alternative Lifestyles & Relationships (LGBTQ, Kink, Poly) — Positive support for people with “alternative lifestyle” interests and activities; negotiating multi-partner romantic relationships; learning boundaries; interpersonal communication skills; safety and setting limits for safe play; coping with discrimination

LGBTQ Parenting — Support with the stress and challenges of parenting in a non-traditional family; work-life balance issues; including alternative methods for creating families and support during medical processes of conception, pregnancy, birth, and early parenthood; managing stress and getting nourishment and sleep